Ever noticed when you hear people complain about their job, that they’re always surrounded by “turkeys”?
Chat with anyone – in any profession or industry – for long enough and they will soon start firing off about the incompetence they’re up against and how they need to step in and fix it!
Maybe it is just that given a willing ear, people like to unload but maybe we could look at it from another angle… maybe it is about personal insight or, rather, a lack thereof.
When we’re considering our own performance, we give ourselves a little grace. To be honest, a huge amount of grace! We’re full of good intentions. We know we work hard. We know we’re diligent and thoughtful about how we approach our work life.
this objectivity at a personal level… it allows us to see ourselves… to identify opportunities for growth and self-improvement
Sure, just occasionally, things go pear-shaped for us but there are good reasons. Maybe there were stresses that week at work that caused you to unceremoniously lose it. Maybe there was an emergency patient, that caused a knock-on effect to the schedule and things just got crazy from there.
We can understand and forgive ourselves for the occasional slip up but we’re pretty quick to judge others, not realising that they, too, may be dealing with additional stresses and strains.
Maybe they’re short-staffed because their colleagues are off sick? Maybe their computer died and they lost all their photos and important files from their desktop (seriously, this happened. It wasn’t fun!)? Maybe their car was sideswiped on the way to work and that threw their whole schedule out the window.
To quote Atticus Finch: “You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view… until you climb into his skin and walk around in it.”
Perhaps we need to extend others the same grace that we extend ourselves.
If you’ve ever been away from your practice for an extended period of time and come back, you see things with new eyes… you see things very differently. It becomes really apparent that the waiting room needs a lick of paint, or the chairs are looking tired, or the displays look ordinary. It is a level of insight we previously didn’t have, because we looked anew at something familiar.
We need this objectivity at a personal level, too, because it allows us to see ourselves for what we are, and to identify opportunities for growth and self-improvement.
As the American businessman Ray Dalio said, “I believe that the biggest problem that humanity faces is an ego sensitivity to finding out whether one is right or wrong and identifying what one’s strengths and weaknesses are.”
It’s not possible to be perfect all the time – it’s not possible to soar like an eagle every day. But whatever happens, however the day goes, aim for the top, fly high, and don’t let the turkeys do your head in.